a zine project

adorned in grace flashmob

Banco Sabadell flashmob

“On the 130th anniversary of the founding of Banco Sabadell we wanted to pay homage to our city by means of the campaign “Som Sabadell” (We are Sabadell) . This is the flashmob that we arranged as a final culmination with the participation of 100 people from the Vallès Symphony Orchestra, the Lieder, Amics de l’Òpera and Coral Belles Arts choirs.”~BancSabadell

Thanks Juanita for sharing this on FB. It is very cool, very inspiring!–so, naturally we wanted to share it here, too!

spring 2012 content

We updated/recreated a page: “Spring 2012 [Content].”

It references, oddly enough, the content that can be found in the Spring 2012 edition. There are links to people, books, songs and albums that inspired our writers, even music videos.

You’ll find this to be a nice companion piece to that zine you will be receiving very shortly in the mail–well, the “you” in this case being those who ordered one.

Thanks again to those who contributed. I hope you enjoy!

staples

{ “the red stapler” by Sarah M. Zagacki }

Last year it was tape, lots and lots of tape. This year: staples!

I swear, though, if we do this with any regularity, I’m getting a long armed stapler…

do they come in red?

yet another reason…

One of the many things that attracted us to Door To Grace‘s movement is their holistic approach in caring for survivors.

“Door To Grace provides residents with wrap-around support services tailored to meet key individual needs. These services address the child’s physical, emotional, intellectual, mental, and spiritual health, as well as providing life skills and leadership development training. Staff, volunteers and community agencies provide these new, life-giving opportunities.” –doortograce.org

The more we learn about the issues surrounding domestic trafficking of minors is how woefully under-resourced we are as a nation. Survivors outnumber available beds, they need shelter for lengthier times than provisions presently stipulate, and they need greater protection and care within these shelters. A survivor’s trauma is significant and has been purposefully (calculatedly) inflicted upon them on various levels of their personhood. They also require a real confidence that they are meant for more and other work. They are capable and needed in our community, and not for or within the industry that has abused them.

Survivors should have the opportunity to heal and to thrive. Door To Grace is a place where they can find the help to do just that.

In addressing the prevalent situation of dating and domestic abuse, a lot of effort has been made to change the popular question “Why don’t they leave?” to “What is preventing them from leaving?” This shifts the responsibility for the situation from the victim/survivor to the abuser. It also shifts focus toward societal contributions to the situation as well. Another consequence of the shift in questions is how it no longer excuses the witness from inaction. Instead we are asked to engage in constructive problem-solving by considering the situation at hand. We can then begin seeking solutions for how best to remove the obstacles in the victim/survivor’s way. A lack of access to real resources is one obstacle with which we can intervene. Modeling an attitude of compassion and trustworthiness is another.

The benefits of minding our language is how “What is preventing them from leaving?” allows us to not only participate in constructive problem-solving for others, but very likely for ourselves as well. “1 in 4 women will be in an abusive relationship in her lifetime” (Center for Health and Gender Equity). Men often find themselves in abusive relationships as well. This could be a “friendship,” on the job, a dating relationship, spousal, or other familial relationship. What kind of message do you send to your daughter/son, niece/nephew, sister/brother, or friend; what kind of message do you receive when someone with whom you are supposed to be able to confide reflects the attitude of the first question: “Why didn’t they leave?” versus the latter. We could be creating major inroads toward the removal of a debilitating obstacle of self-blame or shame (and distrust?) for ourselves and those for whom we care the most.

“What is preventing them from leaving?” is a question being applied to victim/survivors of human trafficking. This allows us to look at how we define “consent” and examine the means in which culture, industry, and abusers (globally and domestically) contribute to the across-the-board degradation of a human being. Toward the effort of educating people on the issue of human trafficking, the question alerts us to the fact that many victim/survivor’s are prevented in some way (usually multiple ways) from either openly seeking help, or even admitting to the situation at hand. Victim/survivors may fear arrest or the harm/death of a loved one or themselves; shame, self-blame, distrust, isolation, lack of resources; there are studies into the trauma-bonds formed, which are enlightening–and terrifying.

One of the hardest consequences of asking “What prevents them from leaving?” is how the answer might implicate our complicity. At the same time, the question can be empowering. We can choose to inquire, educate, and act.

final drafts…(x3)

1) I made a few adjustments where needed. I only have one more edit and now that school is out, Natalya cannot escape–yep, it is the Editor-in-Chief’s poem that needs a final touch.

2) I have been deliberating over a post I’ve started a few times. It is about tough topics and when to discuss them with our young. It would be an opinion piece, especially as I have no training on the matter. (I should find someone to interview.) Really, the draft has quickly turned into a personal conversation, and a bit of a translation of conversations I’ve had with both Sean and the daughter. I am worried about what we are saying when we say nothing at all–kind of a perversion of that Alison Krauss song where she rather famously sings: “You say it best when you say nothing at all.” I worry about how all that feeds into the overwhelming obstacles for trafficking survivors that are distrust, fear, shame, and feelings of isolation. I worry. and the tension in my shoulders do not thank me for it. Maybe we will see a more finalized draft of my exploratory scribblings here soon as well.

3) N and I invented this game yesterday. It was her idea, so sometimes boredom does lead to good invention instead of her sulking and my resorting to “you could always clean your room.” We may or may not have the rules down. After three rounds, we may need more. It is a writing game (yes, we are dorks that way). A flash fiction kind of devisement. Taking 4 of the many board games we own, we cobbled together the challenge: to use certain words, subject and story parameters, and a letter. You’ve ten minutes to write. To accrue points you meet the requirements, use the letter, and be the most entertaining. I’m arguing that points go to the one to finish first–we’ve yet to agree on that point. I’m thinking, too, that I am at a disadvantage having to hand-write the stories (no matter how short). N smirks because she still writes both by hand and key.

{image: The Spaces in Between by Kecky}